Thoughts and Feelings are Bidirectional: Dissolve Illusion, Regulate your System and Get Energy Back

Thoughts and feelings are both bi-directional.

And by that I mean, there are thoughts that you receive from others, or thoughts that generate from within you, and feelings that you generate, or ones that you receive from others. For example, you see a cool blue yo-yo that you like, and someone whose opinion you’ve decided has value says “that’s dumb” - then you take that and decide to agree that it is dumb, whereas your initial generated thought was “that’s so cool!” - likewise the emotions to this situation, your original generated emotions, the ones that welled up in you in response were wonder and amazement, and when you felt disgust from the person your emotional state transferred to confusion, then shame, then disgust. 

When people do not know the difference, this can cause some issues. Some “silly little” illusions that feel so powerful, your nervous system may read it as life-threatening. To stand in your own joy of something may have made you a target for ridicule or ostracization, making it a survival-level threat to change your own projection to fit in. Not so silly or little when you are in the thick of it.

Years later you may see children playing at the park and feel disgust - you feel it well up to say something but you see them having such a good time it jars you back to enough awareness to question it - “Why am I hating on these kids who are having fun?” - the memory comes back, where your own joy was silenced, and you now have a choice to make. Do you still agree to pretend to be disgusted by something that actually brings you joy, or not?

Now, this is a minor analogy, and the person may be able to recognize and move through it with ease. But let's say that this moment was actually major for them - the culmination of other life events and this was the breaking point. Even though it may seem small to the outside, it may have been just the right amount to change someone significantly. Think of it like dropping your phone a lot. The first bunch of times it’s fine. But at some point, even though the fall was smaller than others, the screen cracks. 

So, this moment was a point where a powerful choice was made in your system that shifted your set response patterns. And now years later, you become aware that it is a pattern you created in response to a perceived threat and you are deciding you don’t want it anymore. So what do we do? 

We cultivate awareness and let ourselves breathe. Slow down. Observe your body.

How much energy is moving through it?
What is the texture? Is it spiky, sharp, fuzzy? Electric?
If you are feeling a lot of energy, this can be a call for movement. Shake. Move your body. Vocalize. Let any sounds that want to come out come out. All things that signal our nervous systems, brains, bodies that it is safe for us to let go of this energy and move forward. We do not need to hold the discomfort and freeze it in our systems out of fear. We can let it go and return to baseline-health.

What if you are feeling fuzzy, numb, or dissociated? Perhaps you are all up in your mind and intellectualizing instead of feeling it. If you are frozen, you’re going to experience a thaw, and the emotions that were too unfamiliar to process at the time are going to come back to be felt. Let them move through. If you keep putting your body in between you and feeling them, they are going to stay stuck in your body. This is where dis-ease stems from.
You can bring sensation back to you through self-massage, touching your body and gently and verbally saying “You are safe, I am safe, I am here now”

You are letting these old patterns and feelings complete their life-cycle and move on - energy is never created or destroyed, it simply changes state. When you let these old patterns move through, suddenly the energy you were utilizing to keep them there is free and you have energy for new things you actually desire to experience. 

You have space to generate the feelings and thoughts of your choosing and feel and live the way you desire to.
What a gift.

Let me know how this goes for you,

Rosemarie